It’s not very often that you have a conversation with an addict. Not forgetting that each one of us in our own ways are addicted to something or another. Whether that be internet surfing, pornography, nicotine, sex, masturbation, junk food, TV, working out, there is an addiction for everyone as long as you are human.
For the most part you are better off being addicted to things that enhance your life, things that improve you and lead you on the path to becoming the person you want to be.
However, When your addictions take from you rather than add to you then you know you have got yourself hooked on a habit that needs to be done away with.
But its never that easy is it?
No one ever just wakes up and says “There, that’s it. This is the last time.” Habits die hard.
In fact scientists suggest you cannot completely quell a habit, you have to replace the bad habit with a new one gradually over time.
That is the plight of Jide, who sent me a DM on Instagram some weeks ago seeking my help. He is addicted to Masturbating and does sincerely want to be over with it.
Now in my position, it is difficult to deal with this as with every other addiction as each addiction in itself is different. Addictions relating to the sexual, are even more difficult to deal with as these are addictions that involve the part of us that evokes heightened levels of pleasure.
Of course you cannot just say “Stop doing it,” as it is never that easy to just stop doing it.
A lot of people, especially men starting early on in their teens become addicted to Masturbation and it is true that most men have at some point in their lives pleasured themselves.
For a lot of people addicted to Masturbation, it does quickly transition to yet another addiction to pornography. So not only is the person addicted to masturbating, they now have to deal with a whole new addiction to pornography.
I am looking for the best way to help Jide and I know there are a lot of you who have dealt with this before and can help him find a way out of his plight.
I am counting on you, especially my male readers who have successfully kicked the habit, please leave suggestions in comments below as to how anyone dealing with masturbation can help themselves curb or totally shed this habit off.
You can post your comments anonymously as you desire as I am sure quite a number of people like to maintain a discrete profile.
Constructive suggestions would go a long way, references, books, ideas, thoughts and all that can help are welcome.
I look forward to reading from you guys! Thank you all forward.